A. Oftentimes we repeat the same patterns in life without knowing why. As children, we may have felt ashamed of our feelings or encouraged to "tough it out" on our own when things got difficult. We may have learned to "avoid" problems until we lashed out or "lost it" at others, felt suicidal, or just stopped feeling altogether. We may wonder why we react as we do. We may get stuck, not pursuing jobs, relationships, or other dreams--because we fear rejection, failure, or even success.
I believe we have good reasons for what we do, even if we don't know what those reasons are. Usually we are trying to get our needs met, whether they are needs for attention, love, belonging, or comfort. People usually enter therapy when the old patterns they've developed to get their needs met stop working.
People are at their best when they feel empowered and accepted, and together you and I develop a therapeutic relationship in which it is safe to examine and challenge those learned patterns which are no longer serving you well. In therapy, you have a chance to feel heard, understood, and challenged to be the person you really want to be.